Interview With MysticMag

Caverly was recently interviewed by MysticMag. We wanted to share a few of her responses.

Question: 

In your book, you discuss the intersection of personal transformation and collective awakening. How do you see individual mindfulness practices contributing to broader societal change?

Answer:

Just as we each have a personal ego, there is also a collective ego—though we rarely bring attention to it. When I speak of the personal ego, I am referring to the activity of the conditioned mind, which leads us to perceive ourselves as separate, as other than. This same activity of mind manifests in groupthink, where an entire group adopts a sense of separation.

If we are to address how practices can help dismantle the illusion of separation on an individual level, if we value collective liberation, we must also look at how we can approach it collectively. If you observe the world today, you’ll notice that the collective ego—the illusion that groups or collectives are separate from one another—is more pronounced than it has ever been…in my lifetime anyway! In many ways, this makes it a particularly valuable time to question how these narratives of “othering” are maintained. How can practices help us begin to see through these narratives and recognize their illusory nature?

During my monastic training, we focused almost exclusively on what we perceive as the personal ego—examining how we are conditioned to behave, our thought patterns, and the ways we try to survive our lives. For example, I might be conditioned to be a perfectionist, believing that if I get everything just right, I will be loved. But there are also collective survival strategies. For instance, a collective strategy might be the belief that “we must win at all costs”—something that plays out in the world today. Or perhaps it’s the notion that “we deserve, but they don’t.” Imagine if we, as a collective, could see through these distortions.

I believe that if we could recognize and dismantle these distortions, we could create a society that feels radically different from the one we currently live in. It comes down to creating opportunities to examine how we are with one another, rather than habitually striving for power over others. The idea of “power over” arises from the distorted belief that we are separate from one another. In personal relationships, this might manifest as the belief that I can have power over you. On a collective level, we see this play out through hoarding resources, and other forms of domination and inequality.

The problem is that we have lost sight of what true power is. We tend to think of power as “power over,” but real power is not domination true power is Love.

Question:

Your retreats emphasize nondual awareness and connection with nature. How do these elements facilitate a deeper understanding of self and community among participants?

Answer:

At the deepest level, what my retreats offer is a gentle invitation for participants to inquire into the true nature of who we are. This inquiry is so crucial because our suffering arises from a deep confusion about our true selves. If I believe that I am an isolated, separate being, then suffering becomes inevitable. However, when I come to understand who I truly am, I can connect with the realization that the essence of who I am is not that which suffers.

My retreats open many doors for this inquiry and exploration of direct experience, guiding participants toward discovering their true selves. One of the most powerful ways this unfolds is through immersion in beautiful natural settings. Time spent outdoors not only reconnects us to nature, but also reminds us that we are nature. The experience of being in harmony with the more-than-human world supports the realization of our true nature.

While I don’t think it’s impossible to have a transformative spiritual retreat in an urban environment, I find myself drawn to settings where everything aligns to nurture this remembrance of who we really are. Just this morning, as I was preparing for our conversation, Sarah, I had the privilege of watching two wrens that had just discovered a new birdhouse right outside my bedroom door. I observed them choosing which twigs would create their new home, a magical process to witness. This experience had nothing to do with something we’re all familiar with: internal struggles of questioning whether I am enough, whether I’ve done enough, or feeling overwhelmed by the state of the world. Instead, it was a quiet reminder of the simplicity and beauty of being in tune with what is real. I am blessed to have the opportunity, every day, to support people in remembering what is real.

Click here to read more of the interview. (https://www.mysticmag.com/psychic-reading/interview-caverly-morgan/)

Love Is Not a Fuzzy Thing

It’s not a soft item in your pocket that only comes in pink. It’s not something you earn for being good. It doesn’t come and go like a rainbow. 

Love is not a fuzzy thing. 
 
Subconsciously, I used to associate love exclusively with warmth. Perhaps soft curtains, soft lighting, soft music in the background. Love often felt just out of reach, yet there was promise in my mind that someday… if I worked hard enough, if I learned enough, if I accomplished enough…
 
Love was a promise of something comforting, something delightfully squishy, soft and fuzzy. Love was a reward.
 
It’s only after years of practice that it’s become clear that love is not a fuzzy thing. And that’s not because love is the opposite of such things. It’s not because love, rather than being fuzzy, warm, and soft, is actually rough, blue, cool. 
 
Love is the realization that our very being is shared—with everyone and everything. Our being isn’t “mine” or “yours.” It is not separated by distinctions asserted by the conditioned mind. 

This realization has no specific form. Form takes shape in the formless. 
 
What form can love take?
Any. 

Love can take any form. Like a fuel that can propel a variety of things, the shapes that love can take are countless. The possibilities, infinite.

True power lies in our capacity to love—
to give it, to receive it. 

Practice offers us a way to keep our attention on love — love with a capital L, love that is not conditional — in spite of the whirls of our relative world. This process is not always warm. It is sometimes far from soft and fuzzy.  
 
As we refine our capacity to remember and focus on Love, our actions may appear as a boundary within an unhealthy relationship. It may look like a steadfast steadiness when unkindness is hurled at our heads. As the vacuum of conflict opens its mouth in our direction, it may take the form of the remembrance of ourselves as empty, without need for boundary. Equanimity with no longing to be swallowed.

Having a practice of unconditional love, a practice of remembering Love in every moment and every circumstance, requires:

1. Knowing how to release our attachment to the storylines of the past. 
2. Being willing to be fresh in every moment, ever willing to be surprised by life.

These steps are repeatable. Having such a practice, repeating these steps, shapes the mind. What shape the mind is in matters. It has everything to do with whether or not we suffer or experience our inherent freedom. 
 
Life force, consciousness, is filtered through the mind. Light filtered through a mind shaped by Love creates beautiful images on the wall of relative reality — images that have a very different look and feel from a mind that is lost in the spiral of habituated, conditioned thinking. These images become actions. These actions, repeated in community, become culture.

In order to be free personally and collectively we must ask, what culture, internally and externally, are we creating?

Are we creating a culture informed by and made of Love?

Practice also offers us a way to stabilize in our recognition and remembrance of Love — and something else is required.

In order to remember Love, to know it, feel it, taste it, to remember ourselves as it, we must be willing to shift our habitual relationship to control. Two more things are required:

3. To accept that we have no control, that control is an illusion.
4. To not stop there. To lose the taste for control entirely. 

We cannot know Love and feed our conditioned desire for control at the same time. 
 
Love is the substance of being.
Love doesn’t conquer all.
Love doesn’t speak the language of dominance.
Love is ever-present, beyond time and space, beyond control.

From the knowing of our inherent freedom, we not only accept that we have no control — we no longer long to have it. 
 
Pause.
 
Feel into the difference of these two statements:
 
“I can accept that I have no control.”
 
and
 
“I don’t need control.”
 
The outcomes of our actions are so often beyond our control. Feel into the freedom of realizing that it’s one thing to accept that (fill in the blank) is what it is and I can’t control it, it’s another to say, I don’t need to try to control it. 

Remember the Indian philosopher Krishnamurti’s statement near the end of his life, “I don’t mind what happens. That is the essence of inner freedom. It is a timeless spiritual truth: release attachment to outcomes, deep inside yourself, you’ll feel good no matter what.”

There’s mastery in this. 
 
Consider an addict who is incarcerated and longs to not be reliant on the drug of choice. To them, the bars of the prison might become a supportive friend of sorts. The imprisoned addict may begin to lean into accepting that they cannot have the thing they believe they want more than anything else. 
 
Picture them there, sliding down the wall to sit, hands to head, “I must accept that I have no access.”
 
Now picture this very same person no longer needing what they’ve been addicted to, free from even craving it. 
 
This is freedom.
 
Freedom lives in Love. 
Love lives in freedom. 
 
Practice allows us to return to Love again and again. Eventually Love will become our default. 
 
Why? Because 
 
Love is not a fuzzy thing. 
Love is the heart of who we are.

What is Relational Dharma?

What do I mean by relational dharma?


A relational dharma (or teachings) recognizes that our life unfolds within relationship—relationship with family, friends, colleagues, community, the world. For most of us, our relationships are where the rubber meets the road. Practice on our cushions can seem quite peaceful, and then we get off our cushions and into the relationships of our lives!

A relational dharma embraces relationship as a vital place for practice. A place where our conditioning is revealed and we learn and grow from all the bumps and the rubs along the way.

Enlightenment is the recognition that, on the most absolute level, there is no relationship. In other words, enlightenment is the collapse of the perception of relationship. It’s the collapse of subject versus object–the collapse of the distinction that I (subject) am separate from you (object). It is the dissolution of the belief that who you are, fundamentally, is separate from anyone or anything else.

On the relative plane in which our lives are unfolding within the various relationships we maintain, when the subject/object perception collapses, the unity of being shines brightly through all our relationships. It is then that being (or pure consciousness, or awareness) itself begins to shine through everything. Our relative plane relationships with friends, coworkers, family, community members, even strangers, transform. When we relate to each other while seeped in the way in which there is no ‘other,’ no subject nor object, not only do our personal lives change, new possibilities emerge for collective transformation as well.

A ‘relational dharma’ is a dharma that supports us in realizing this no-other-ness. These teachings use relationship to help us directly experience that, ultimately, there is no relationship. On the most fundamental level, our shared being is simply appearing in different forms, creating the perception that we are separate. A life lived from this understanding is an awakened life.

“I appreciate how subtle and intentional Caverly is in realizing the concepts she teaches in relational group work -- something that usually would give me pause but which I actually found quite meaningful.”

- Emily, writer and filmmaker